This morning, during a conversation with a friend and fellow life coach, I had an “ah-ha” moment that has me deepening my thoughts around perfectionism. This is often a trauma response, by the way. One of the songs I wrote a few years ago, in the midst of my own journey, details the different […]
I have always loved horses. From my earliest memories, these magnificent animals held me spellbound. But my experiences with horses over the years pushed me away from them, not because my feelings had changed, but because the treatment I witnessed, and was expected to administer in my interactions with them, felt out of alignment with
Over the weekend, I attended a music conference on a college campus near my hometown. My cousin came in from Ohio, and we shared a dorm room and lots of memories and got all silly just like we were actual college roommates. Saturday morning, she wanted to go to a session called “Singing for
It’s only recently that I became aware of the trait formally called Sensory Processing Sensitivity, via a documentary film titled Sensitive: The Untold Story. This led me to a book by Dr. Elaine Aron, a leading researcher in the field who coined the term Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) to refer to individuals who have this
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Circa March, 2020 I’m looking in the mirror and who I’m seeing isn’t me. I don’t know how to explain this, other than to say, I mean it literally. I’m staring at my own reflection, and the person I see is my brother. Or my mother. Sometimes I see my grandmother. Often it’s my
April 6, 2022 For the longest time, I couldn’t find her. I called and searched and queried. “Have you seen my Spark?” I said, “My Joy?” Deaf ears. It was as if she’d never existed. (Was it that she’d never existed?) “I can’t find my Meaning,” I cried, “My Reason for Being!”
March 5, 2023 I recently held a discovery session with a potential client during which I quickly recognized that what I was seeing in her was quite different from the way she was seeing herself. This brought up the memory of some work I had done with a mentor a few years earlier. This
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September 9, 2022 Lately I’ve been revisiting my relationship with the color pink. I never liked the color pink. I rarely wore it and, for the most part, did not allow it into my life. I’ve only recently started to question why that is. Society links the color pink with girls and
(Photo by William J. Feerrar) I mentioned in a previous post that I’ve been exploring songwriting as a storytelling device. It’s all very new, but over the weekend, I had my first super informal recording session with a friend. We are both learning! It was so much fun to play around with all this, and
Some of my favorite topics to work on with clients are those I’ve struggled with throughout my own life. Perfectionism, for example. My inner perfectionist and I are still learning this tango, but we’ve come a long way in balancing the give and take needed to foster a healthy relationship. For most of my
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